“帮我翻译个东西吧”——“给钱吗兄dei？”丨夜听双语(2)

If someone is clearly depressed, prefers alone time, or needs your help before something bad happens, this is not the tip for you to follow. Please reach out to that person and let them know you care. [好文分享：www.ii77.com]

如果你的朋友的确很沮丧，想要一个人静静，或者是为了避免更糟糕的情况，急需你的帮助，那就别抛弃他们。一定要伸出援手，让他们知道你很在乎他们。 [好文分享：www.ii77.com]

But if you have friends who you consistently try to make plans with, they decline or take a rain check with a "oh we'll have to hang out soon" and never get back with you, yet you see them out with other friends all the time, then yes, this is very applicable. You deserve better friends.

不过如果你的朋友是你老是得为TA改变计划的那种——他们要么拒绝，要么说“下次吧”、“改天我们再出去玩儿”，结果后来也没回音了，但是你却看到TA有时间天天和别人出去玩儿——那，该怎么做你很清楚。你值得更好的朋友。

If you really want to connect with someone, take them for a long, scenic walk. Not being face to face takes some of the pressure off, and the scenery puts you in the right mood to open up.

如果你很想和某个人加深关系，不妨带TA们出去散个步，周边景致很好可以散很久的那种。免去了面对面的交流可以消除一部分社交压力，而且优美的风景能让你们心情好得敞开心扉。

Don't ask people if they're free on a certain date without specifying why you're asking. Simply asking "are you free on Friday?" comes across like you're tricking the other person into doing whatever it is you want them to do.

先说清楚自己的目的，再问人家某天是否有空。如果只是问“周五你有空吗”这样的问题就会给人感觉你在诱使他们去做你自己想让他们做的事情。

If you constantly vent your problems to someone, make sure to also call them when things are going well. Good listeners can sometimes get overwhelmed, and it's nice to hear positive news. To add to that, also make sure you're available to let them vent their problems. Relationships are a two way street.

如果你不停地跟某个人诉苦，那最好在事情步入正轨之后给TA们一个信儿。贴心的倾听者们有时候也会懵，所以最好让他们收到好消息。另外还有一点就是，你自己也得保证有空听他们倒苦水。毕竟人际关系是双向的。

If you have a chore that you actually enjoy, never tell anyone you enjoy it.

如果有一件其实你很喜欢做的杂务，千万不要告诉任何人！

You'll do that chore for the rest of your days, even if you stop enjoying it.

要么你就得做一辈子，哪怕之后你不再喜欢做这件事了……

You get no credit for doing that chore, since it’s really not even a chore, right?

要么再也不会有人因为你做的这件事情表扬你了，毕竟对你来讲不算是杂务了，不是吗？