健康自恋的人更容易走上人生巅峰！(3)

But those positive impressions deteriorate quickly.

但这种好印象很快就会褪去。

Two studies published 1998, in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, found that narcissistic college students were at first perceived as agreeable and well-adjusted by their peers.

1998年《个性与社会心理学期刊》刊登的两项研究发现，自恋的大学生给同龄人留下的第一印象是和蔼可亲、适应性强。

Interestingly, after a few weeks, those perceptions become more negative: 

Narcissists were perceived as less agreeable and well-adjusted, and more hostile and arrogant, than other students.

但有趣的是，几周过后，这种好印象就变差了：相比于其他人，

自恋者给人留下的印象变得更不好相处，适应性更差，更不友善、傲慢。

In "Rethinking Narcissism," Harvard Medical School psychologist Craig Malkin gives a definition of healthy narcissism: being able to move "seamlessly between self-absorption and caring attentiveness."

哈佛大学医学院心理学专家克雷格·马尔金在《反思自恋》一书中给“健康自恋”下了定义：能够在“专注自我和关怀体贴之间无缝切换”。

Malkin and a colleague developed the Narcissistic Spectrum Scale, on which two key indicators of healthy narcissism are responding "no" to the statements, 

"I like to dream big, but not at the expense of my relationships" and "I can rein myself in when people tell me I'm getting a big head."

他和一名同事研发了“自恋指数谱”，其中“健康自恋”的两个关键标志就是“两个不”：

“我喜欢远大的梦想，但不会以我的感情关系为代价”、“当别人说我自以为是时，我可以控制自己”。

If you do score high on healthy narcissism, Malkin writes, you're likely to have an easy time giving and receiving emotional support, and to enjoy closeness and emotional intimacy.

马尔金写道，如果你的“健康自恋”得分很高，那么你可能很容易给予或获得情感支持，并且享受亲密关系。